“Why don’t you start looking for a husband?”, this was the introductory greeting I got from an old friend and colleague, Ria, when she found out I’m leaving again soon. I couldn’t help but laugh and answered, “Can I find a boyfriend first?” and we both burst into laughter.
I remember how those questions wouldn’t bother me at all, when I was traveling solo around Southeast Asia. I get those questions a lot from my students and tour guides I met during my travels, laughing at the idea that those questions wouldn’t want to leave me everywhere I go and every time, I am dumb founded and clueless of what to answer. Times I was enjoying my freedom and couldn’t think of getting myself into something that will tie me down.
Then there’s Leizel, my buddy, who mentioned “You’re the only one left!” one afternoon while we’re having a cuppa after I told her that Nick and Doug are both happy now with their girlfriends, giggling as she updates me on her love life. I asked, “What? What do you mean?” and she replied, “We (referring to Team SRC from Krabi) are all happy with our love lives and you’re the only one left without!”. Aww sh*t! I didn’t think about it that way! I told her, “OMG! Yeah!”.
Then I told my friend Tom that I think he cursed me, all along I didn’t care about being single until few months after I turned 30. He once told me that,“When you turn 30, you’ll start thinking about who to spend the rest of your life with…” I laughed at him because I thought it won’t happen.
After that convo with Leizel, I was suddenly screaming in my thoughts “OMG! I’m 30 and still single!” and I ended up telling my friend Tom that silly thought that he cursed me. He replied saying, “At least you’d be more focused…“, it got to me already. Hmmm maybe and maybe not, but if Tom’s right well at least it will do good to me (being focused). If not, then I think I’d have to curse him back!hah! I’m just messing Tommy…
But really, why am I still single? I used to answer,“I love my freedom and I’m happy being single”. I also have an alternative answer saying, “Well, I travel a lot…can’t stay at one place to even grow roots”. I truly mean all those answers, I really love the freedom I have, doing things I always want to do and going places I want to go to.
The debate of why I’m still single goes on… Some people started thinking I’m a lesbian (OMG! I’m not! hah!), and some, after asking me a question if I ever had a bf thinks that I’m in despair of my last relationship(just because that was my first one), but they’re all wrong! I’m quite confuse why for sometime then but because I’m enjoying it(freedom), I didn’t care if I’m single.
I’m just taking each day as it comes, enjoying life, learning things, and if time comes that I will find that one person to enjoy life with then it will be hell a lot of fun!
OMG! Yes, I’m 30, still single, and having the time of my life…and yet to find a prospect(hah!).